Last week my friend Holly invited me to go and see her performance in a show in Hollywood. “I totally understand if you don’t want to come,” she said, “considering the topic.”
The show is called Expressing Motherhood and is advertised as “the national, sold out, on-going play, consisting of moms sharing stories about motherhood.”
She was right, considering the topic, I did not want to go. I could think of few worse ways to spend a perfectly good weekend night than listening to moms babbling on about how hard or how beautiful, or how life-changing, personality-altering, amazingly incredible being a mom is for them. I could picture myself sitting there yelling, “Cry me a river, ladies!” as some mom bemoaned her sleepless nights. Even worse was the fear of dredging up all those emotions I’ve worked so hard to get in line, and having to be carried in a flood of tears from the theatre.
Needless to say, I politely declined the invitation and Holly understood.
But earlier this week, I had a change of heart. As I’ve been telling friends about my book, I’ve realized just how many people who have been with me through the whole journey and have been so supportive and encouraging.
Holly is one of those people.
She listened to my woes when I was trying to get pregnant and she encouraged me when I decided to write the book. She even had the guts to come and tell me face-to-face, and with tact and consideration for my feelings, that she was pregnant when she knew I was not. If I was going to be standing on a stage talking about not being a mother, Holly would be sitting in the audience, whistling with her fingers stuck in her mouth.
So I sucked it up – woman’d up, if you like – and bought a ticket for Friday night’s show. I’m going on my own, so I won’t have anyone to embarrass if I do have to be carried out, and I’m going to support my friend.
I can’t say it’s not without some trepidation that I will make the drive up to Hollywood tomorrow, but if nothing else, it will be an interesting experiment, and you can be sure that I’ll report in!
I think it is good that you are going as Holly has been so supportive of you. She is a great friend and you’ll be the one whistling in the audience!
I have to say that one thing touched me is that comment about having the guts to come and tell you face to face that she was pregnant. As hard as I think that is for everyone, it is most certainly the best way. I have found out about some friends directly and some friends indirectly. The directly makes you feel like you aren’t the outsider. It helps a lot.
That is very brave of you! What a good friend you are!
I also wanted to tell you that I just got a Kindle this morning, and your book was the first book I downloaded. Can’t wait to read it!
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L- Uou know I adore you- started reading your book the moment I got back. You’re a twisted little girl, I like that in a person.
So glad you’re going to check out the show and support me. It means so much to have you there because you’ve been a part of my writing journey for so many years.
I hope you can enjoy the show on some level. And I’m so proud of you and this site and how you’re reaching so many and making them feel less alone.
Bravo, Lisa! I admire and applaud your growth and willingness to offer support under such trying circumstances.
Wow…wow…did I say wow?? Kudos to you!!! Can’t wait to hear the report!