By Lisa Manterfield
When I started this blog seven years ago, I didn’t know anyone else who had wanted children, but given up on the dream. All the books about infertility featured miracle cures and happy endings. The infertility blogs I followed either morphed into pregnancy and parenting blogs, or quietly disappeared. I really did feel like I was the only person who’d ever gone through this.
And then I found Pamela and Kathleen, and slowly I came to know a growing circle of wonderful women who all understood how I felt. You found me and I got to know you, and together we began navigating our way through this mess.
And yet, beyond the safety of our blogs and books, our little tribe was silent. Out in the real world, we were ignored, misunderstood, criticized, and pitied.
But that is changing. You may not feel it yet, but change is in the air, and for once, the wind is blowing in our favor.
My friend and colleague, Jody Day, is leading the charge in the UK. Last week the Guardian newspaper published an article about the growing movement.
You can read “‘The desire to have a child never goes away’: How the involuntarily childless are forming a new movement.”
I hope, like me, you’ll find it encouraging.
I hope that people in Asian countries would start to just open up their minds that not all women want/can have children. At present I still choose to be quiet being childless. I feel so alone.
I agree with you Claire .. there definitely needs to be more awareness.