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Yes, my sister and I had to take care of most of my mothers health issues towards the end of her life, but then its always been like that through out our lives. Both of my bothers have children and we do not. It sucks all the time.
This a great topic I was walking my dog yesterday and I was walking on a tree covered medium because little kids scare my dog. And the mother of these cute girls says she is walking her dog there for a reason. I am sure she meant that my dog might not play well with others. In that minute I was so frustrated and sad, that my life with no kids is so counter culture Nd at times feeling what is wrong with me. This comes on the heals of a meeting with our financial adviser about coming up with a health care plan for later on because we have no kids to take cRe of us. I am part of a big family and I know there are no guarantees kids would help with elderly care , but the timing was rough. And the last part of this is I saw a new Gyn after some great recommendations for this website to see someone who is just Gyn to not have to deal with the pregnant woman which was great. But I find out the previous Dr. Was treating me incorrectly for 13 years . These 13 years were still during when my husband And I were trying to conceive. I felt so sad, and angry, and all that acceptance of our life as Childfree , started the old hamster wheel, if this condition was treated and it was a easy fix, of course now that I have had it so long it’s not eSy now, but oh crap! All this compounded, and on most days I do pretty well, accepting our life’s child free but this new bit of info, started the grief and would, coulda, should all over again. Thanks for the forum, it’s so good to say things without judgment.
I thought I commented on this yesterday. There is a feeling of times of not feeling good enough, or being the people with out kids, at times how isolating that is. We met with our financial adviser and he was talking about getting older and what are we going to do, since we have no kids to take care of us. I know there are no guarantees having kids they would take care of ourselves. The ther part was recently I found out my former Gyn had been treating me incorrectly for a condition for 13 years, and of course now the infection is treatment resistant due to the amount of time without treatment. I had so many feelings, anger, sadness, and the kind of get on the hamster wheel, thinking that was thru some of the fertile years. Could we have gotten regnant, would, shoulda. The problems with these questions is that they keep your mind busy but never solve anything. Anyways all these factors and 2 coworker pregnant now added to all of this. Thank you for listening!